To get a match moving
A new mutual-interest match expires if neither person suggests a date within 48 hours.
How it works
A real plan.
A real person.
A real first date.
Where & When replaces the chat thread with a date invitation. You choose who, where, and when. The app keeps the plan moving, right through meeting up.
See the steps
Find someone you’d like to meet.
Browse profiles in Meet and take a look at who they are. There are two ways to make the first move.
Start with interest
Tap Interested. If they’re interested too, you match, and either of you can suggest a date.
Lead with a plan
Send a date invitation straight from their profile. They can accept, suggest something else, or pass. Sending an invitation alone doesn’t create a match.
Give your date a where and a when.
Choose an activity, select a public venue, and pick a day and time. Your date sees the plan and your profile together, so there’s something real to say yes to.
- Accept: the plan goes into Dates with the details in one place.
- Suggest something else: change the place or time and choose a reason, so the other person knows what needs adjusting.
- Pass: if it doesn’t feel right, you can decline.
You can work out the details without writing a single message.
Both confirm you’re still coming.
Accepting settles the plan. Before the date, there’s a separate attendance confirmation: “Yes, I’ll be there.” Both people need to confirm by the deadline shown in the app.
If someone doesn’t confirm in time, the date is automatically canceled. If you can’t make it, use the cancellation flow so the other person knows. You can suggest a new plan if you both still want to meet.
A yes to the plan, then a yes to showing up.
Check in and find each other.
Check-in opens in the hour before your date. Choose “On my way” with an estimated arrival time, or “I’m here” with a little more detail, such as inside, outside, or at a table.
Your date can see your status. If location verification isn’t available, you can still check in manually; the app marks it as unverified.
No “Where are you?” thread needed.
Meet. Then let us know how it went.
After the date, tell the app whether you met, someone didn’t show, or there was an issue. Reports help us review problems and repeated no-shows.
If you’d like to stay in touch, exchange contact details when you meet. Where & When doesn’t open a chat inbox afterward.
Read about safety and reporting
Plans have a little momentum.
Clear deadlines help keep a maybe from lasting forever.
To answer a suggestion
Suggestions can close sooner when the date is near. The live countdown shows your actual response deadline.
Both confirm attendance
Follow the confirmation deadline in Dates. Plans made closer to the date can have a shorter window.
A few more things.
How many times can we change a plan?
You can exchange up to six suggestions in total, including the first one. Accept a plan that works for both of you before that limit. An unanswered suggestion also counts toward the total.
What if my date hasn’t checked in?
Once you’ve checked in as here, the app tracks the wait. After 20 minutes without a check-in from your date, you can report a no-show and leave without a penalty, or choose to keep waiting. You can always leave sooner if you feel uncomfortable.
Can I cancel or end a connection?
Yes. Use the date’s cancellation options when plans change, or unmatch when you don’t want to continue. You can also block or report someone. Repeated late cancellations and no-shows can lead to account restrictions.
What makes this different from other dating apps?
There’s no in-app messaging. A connection leads to a specific activity, public place, and time. Responses, attendance confirmations, arrival updates, and follow-up all use clear choices, so the app helps you get to a date instead of keeping you in a chat.